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Your boss has a certain amount of power over you as you do over your subordinates, but it is supposed to be different with your peers. You have to be at the same level. You have to pull together as a team and help each other. In the real world, some colleagues just pretend to do this.
These colleagues are so concerned with getting ahead and looking good, they will not admit that some of their actions can make you look bad. Sometimes they misinterpret actions, believing that you are looking down at them, and move to get back at you. Others, knowingly and unknowingly, use ingenuity to create copycat proposals.
For the time being, you are stuck with daily headaches to deal with deceitful colleagues. concern is to keep underhanded behavior interfere with your career.
milkers
milkers choose ideas from the brain, steal credit for and profiting from them.
milkers are phony office friends who pretend to think of you, but just think of the information they can extract from you. Instead of suggesting that you team up and brainstorm an idea or activity that you both contribute and claim credit, they probe the mind of delicately worded questions. Then they brainchild and accept it or adapt it as their own.
You thought once you left the road and into the office you were safe from thieves? Just as Pickpockets steal your wallet, milkers steal your ideas. Because these con artists do not use guns, you did not even know you were being robbed.
I think that this is not just my imagination. Chris pumped me for information about the best way to organize the program so that we would cooperate with all agencies under one roof. Now I find my ideas in this memo from my boss, lauding Chris for coming up with a plan that can help the department achieve better coordination. I can not decide whether to quietly knock out lights Chris manner or expose him for the thief that he is. How can I prove that the ideas were really mine and not Chris is?
Meanwhile, Chris is thinking of the great communication that his boss sent out praise for coordinating his ideas. He will add this to his list when it’s time to hit the boss for a raise.
I will not get anything from confrontation. The milker has already convinced himself that the ideas came to him as divine inspiration. I will learn from my mistakes. My goal is now to understand the ideas in them that I want to present to my own proposals and those who need the collective wisdom of a group to be properly developed. Then direct the flow of ideas.
oPlug leak. When you’ve fingered people who want to empty your mind, be polite but tight-lipped. Just stop giving information.
oWelcome debate the concepts effect on other units. You do not want to work in a vacuum, not when you need your cooperation coworkers. Do not limit yourself to one brainpicker audience. Expand group. Call through other colleagues or bring up these issues at lunch or at staff meetings.
Okay, so milker duped you. Be glad this happened to you now. You will be wiser in the future when you come up with a very brilliant gem. Then you will know how to nourish, protect and present the award-winning idea.
Back-Stabbers
Back-Stabbers is nice to your face, but very critical of you behind your back.
These colleagues stab you in absentia. They are bad-mouthers, lying or being critical of you when you are not there. When you are with them, they act like they are your friends. But out of sight, but phonies betray your trust, show some publication you trust about your personal life or opposing action you have taken.
They keep trying to outwit you or get some measure of control over you. Maybe they misinterpreted the operation. Maybe you did something that angered them, but you can not imagine what it was. You’re scratching your head while you are pulling the blade from the back.
You’re thinking that you will find it difficult to accept that Susan would say anything bad about you behind your back. But the three men heard the same thing, so it must have actually happened. You guessed office you can not have any really close friends because the competition is too intense. From now on you will keep information on the private life to himself. But how do you stop Susan from bad-op you back? What made her do it in the first place?
Meanwhile, Susan is thinking of Christ have been bragging so much about the progress of her staff had made. She is making the rest of us look like a bunch of loafers. I’m really sick and tired of all think she is perfect and use their work to a standard that we should all follow.
goal is to stop back-stabbing. If the criticism made of the work is legitimate, that has to be aired and resolved.
oConfront Back-Stabbers. Simply report what you heard. Do not start swinging. Ask them to specifically spell out what the accusations they made a verb. Speak up firmly, without showing any anger or voicing any reason.
OIF mistake was yours, apologize immediately . Sometimes you become a victim of Back-Stabbers if they perceive that you were insensitive to their feelings. If, for example, they believe that you have to put them down with elevation yourself, you make them feel insecure and want to strike back at you.
oProvide graceful way out. If Back -Stabbers accuse you unjustly and then deny having made the reported statements, leave them in peace. When they know that you know they have invaded your reputation and you will not sit still for such immature behavior, Back-Stabbers will back off. But if you create emotional scene, the tip-off that they got a rise out of you, they can keep it up.
If you allow back-stabbing to disappear, it can eventually damage your reputation. Such actions are childish and it takes a quiet, no-nonsense demeanor to make the culprit behave like adults.
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Source by Michael McCann